With mental health week last week I heard so many people say “It’s okay, not to be okay” and I understand and respect the intent that statement has.
Personally, I’m not sure that is the way forward as it almost accepts, that some people are struggling, but it doesn’t necessarily mean we are doing anything about it.
I think we should state the fact “It’s NOT okay to be not okay” so if you are struggling with things then let’s make sure we create an environment where you can be okay.
I have friends that have things going on in their lives that cause stress and tensions and we do talk about it. Sometimes it’s just to vent, sometimes it’s seeking advice and guidance and sometimes it’s because there is some ‘tough love’ to dish out. I don’t know of anyone that is not dealing with something.
I watched the beginning of the Scotland vs. Japan rugby, on Sunday, and there were obvious signs of stress in each of the players faces. The fans were clearly emotional due to the lives lost in the hurricane the day before and, possibly having some guilt, watching a game of rugby so soon after such a disaster. Stress and pressure impacts us all, in every aspect of life and it’s having the ability to deal with your pressure that is important.
The Japanese rugby players used their stress to improve their performance and they channelled their emotions in every minute of that game. I have no doubt, as a team, they discussed how they were feeling and what they needed to do to get over it, in the moment, and produce their best performance possible.
It will be important to decompress after the game too, as the adrenalin can mask the reality and drop you like a stone with no reasoning.
Being constantly aware of your own levels of tension is so important as it allows you to be proactive and put strategies in place to manage the different streams of pressure in life. It is also good to be aware of the people around you and notice small-to-radical changes in moods or behaviours, and, instead of ignoring things, connect and share your concerns.
It’s good to talk and it’s great to know there are people who care, if you need them.
Be vigilant and ,maybe, you could be the one that makes a difference to someone else’s life, not only this week but forever.