The half marathon last weekend was great, we all finished and without any injuries.
I didn’t set a new PB but that wasn’t the intention. I enjoyed running with friends, supporting their efforts and achieving this together.
Sometimes the objective is not about personal goals, it’s about other people, which is why I love the quote from Zig Ziglar.
It’s a shame that more people don’t think like this, wouldn’t life be a bit nicer?
I am, sometimes, guilty of being selfish and focus on me, but I think that is ok too. There are times to look after number 1 and then there are times to consider others. When I have a big event coming up, I have to put some hours in and that can mean I go out on the bike for 5 hours on a weekend, the compromise is that I start early so it has less impact on my family time. (And I probably end up buying lunch!)
If you get the balance wrong you could be seen as, or described as, a complete arse or a complete walk over!
With all aspects in life there is a time to compromise and negotiate, for an acceptable outcome, so all parties feel valued. This takes effort, it is easy just to think of ourselves and what’s best for us, but the minute you have to deal with a relationship, things change. It could be any relationship, but if it is one to be cherished, we have to work at considering others.
This is a big lesson that I constantly go on about to my children and often find myself saying “It’s not all about you, I have a life too” Especially when I am driving them here, there and everywhere and all I want to do is relax after a days work.
When I think of the relationships in my life, I have a couple that I need to put more effort into. I could visit my Mum more or spend more time with my Daughter and my Grandchildren instead of doing cycle rides or events. As the family grows it gets harder to connect with everyone, on a regular basis, and I often find myself drifting in my own world, especially when I am busy.
“Out of sight and out of mind” is not acceptable when it comes to family and friends so I have to say “Thank you (Mark Z) for FaceBook!” A like here, or comment there, can make all the difference. It doesn’t replace face-to-face but it can make a big difference. As we know real relationships take more work, and social media should not be the only form of communication when it comes to maintaining meaningful relationships.
I do have to remind myself of this from time to time.
An interesting video clip this week of Simon Sineks’ view on Millenniuls. Click here to view
What can you do, this week, to help someone else achieve something they want to achieve?