Letting go can be the hardest thing to do, but, for some situations, it’s the best solution for all involved.
It could be a relationship that is not working, a job that sucks, an employee that is just not working out, or a sport you have ‘out grown’
Recognising that it is time to do something different can be emotional.
But, normally, when the decision has been made, it lifts a great weight from your shoulders and the future suddenly unfolds in a different direction. Opportunities, strangely enough, start to appear and other choices need to be made.
The burden and stress, of hanging on, is released and you can finally breathe again.
This just happened to us! We have been trying for 16 months to help someone out and guide them to a better future, without much success. The emotional investment has had an impact on the whole family and caused arguments at times. The difference of opinions and constant boundary pushing has taken us to this point in time where we no longer have anything to give.
The next step is a painful one, for us – Time to let go.
After 7 years, and 6 young adults later, I’m starting to realise that every place, they have been, has taught them something, before they have moved on. It might not have got them to where they need to be, but it all helps. The small changes eventually make a big difference, when they are finally ready to put it all together!
I have written MM’s before, about not writing someone off, as I believe everyone has the potential to be even better, but if there are no changes, no ‘apparent’ learning and no progress, then the energy has to be used in other places. The potential will be released when the time and place is right – it’s not here and it’s not now.
Our next ‘challenge’ will arrive in time and we will go again, taking with us everything we have learnt from each of the previous experiences. We will try different approaches and work with a different set of issues, personalise our support and see how we get on.
Life has a habit of working out in the end and, as long as you are brave enough to believe that, you will make the right choices, for all involved.
As we all know, change need to happen to grow and develop. Everyone needs a challenge now and then to become stronger, better, or even more efficient. Without challenge, growth stops, complacency steps in and the comfort zone becomes your own personal jail.
Having made our decision to let go, I feel ready to go again and make a difference to another life. Let’s just hope they grab the opportunity and accept our support / guidance to help with their next challenge.
Is there something you need to let go of, need more support with or want to challenge yourself to do?
Just food for thought…