Last Friday I got the opportunity to attend a workshop called The Charisma Connection. A friend of mine was delivering the session locally and I was intrigued to find out what it was all about.
The day went well and was different from my original expectations. I was required to have an open mind to do some of the activities and felt out of my comfort zone at times.
One of the exercises we did was about our aura’s (click here for definition) and how our energy can be changed by the way we think, how others talk to us and how we talk to others. It was amazing to experience how easy it is to affect your own energy and other people’s energy, immediately, in a good or bad way!
We used dowsing rods to measure each others aura’s and then did activities with giving feedback to another person and then doing a re-measure. The results are crazy! The outcome I found most interesting was: if I gave someone else some negative feedback, obviously, it has a negative impact on their energy, but….it also had a negative impact on mine!
If I gave someone some positive feedback, as you would imagine, it had a positive impact on their energy, and, gave me a boost too!
In fact, I didn’t even have to verbalise the feedback and it still had the same impact. I just thought bad things and it had a negative affect and when I thought good things – voila!
When I went home I shared the days learnings, made some dowsing rods and entertained the family for a while, much to their delight.
This made me reflect on a recent situation where I was a bit stressed, waiting to fly to Manchester and deliver 4 x 45 minute workshops (Ironically on Thriving under pressure!). My flight had been delayed, which meant my travel time to the venue and preparation time when I got there, was not as long as I’d planned. Just after the flight delay was announced, I had a long, long text from my Sister, giving me a really hard time about something that had upset her.
Her feedback was really unfair, unsolicited, inaccurate and was not for my benefit – she just wanted to ‘shout’ at someone. I was so, so angry and just wanted to text back with some equally hurtful ‘stuff’ but I didn’t.
I just thanked her for the feedback, calmed down with a coffee and refocussed on the task in hand.
Having attending the workshop, I now realise that this ‘feedback’ would have also had a negative affect on my Sister and I am sure it would have taken the wind out of her sails too. She probably felt flat all day because of it.
There are times when I talk with people and I come away feeling tired and want to sleep or sit down. Then there are people i meet and I become energised and full of beans, have you had that experience?
Energy zappers inspire and motivate, where energy sappers drain and destroy – which one are you?
When I got ‘sapped’ by my Sister I called my wife and she ‘zapped’ my energy levels back up and helped me deal with the rest of the day.
I would recommend that you have your ‘Zappers’ on speed dial – just in case you have a Sister like mine!